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zaggystardust said: there are many out there willing to forgive Alex's misdeeds and welcome him back into a position of power within the YouTube community. directed at those; not you

Ah, I see! Thanks for clarifying :)

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zaggystardust said: when people in positions of power abuse their position, their power is taken from them to prevent it ever happening again. alex day, through youtube, had a position of power he abused; it was taken away and must never be returned... it's not complicated

I completely agree. You’re kinda preaching to the choir here.

Have I ever said something that suggests I believe otherwise? I don’t understand why the patronising tone was necessary.

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The effects of the incident last much longer for the abused woman, of course, and pretty soon the abuser may be snapping at her: “What, aren’t you over that yet? Don’t dwell on it, for crying out loud. Let’s put it behind us and move forward.” His attitude is: “I’m over it, so why isn’t she?”

Genuine remorse and theatricality are not mutually exclusive. Most abusers are truly sorry - though perhaps largely for themselves…

Remorse usually tends to decline as abusive incidents pile up. The genuine aspect fades as the abusive man grows accustomed to acting abusively and tuning out his partner’s hurt feelings. The theatrical part fades as he becomes less concerned about losing the relationship, confident now that she is fully under his control and won’t leave him.

The salient point about remorse, however, is that it matters little whether it is genuine or not. [Abusive men in an abuser program] who get very sorry after acts of abuse change at about the same rate as the ones who don’t. The most regretful are sometimes the most self-centered, lamenting about all the injury they’ve done to their own self image. They feel ashamed of having behaved like cruel dictators and want to revert quickly to the role of benign dictators, as if that somehow makes them much better people.

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— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via seebster)

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cognitivedissonance:

Tonight in Ferguson, Mo. Even CNN is calling out police brutality.

We are watching history unfold. Do not stand down. Spread the word.

No justice, no peace.

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waywardandwanderlust:

heartsandmagic:

Cat doesn’t know what to do with the butterfly that flew on its paw.

I can’t breathe I’m laughing too hard

Not a butterfly; it’s tape, stuck to the poor kitty’s paw.

waywardandwanderlust:

heartsandmagic:

Cat doesn’t know what to do with the butterfly that flew on its paw.

I can’t breathe I’m laughing too hard

Not a butterfly; it’s tape, stuck to the poor kitty’s paw.

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mach712:

nursecyanide:

mvgl:

The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air 2x09 - “Cased Up” (November 11, 1991)

Woooooow

It’s nothing new.

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I posted this on Twitter two months ago:

If you’ve publicly admitted to sexual abuse and want to rehabilitate … don’t return to the platform that helped facilitate the abuse.

This is still relevant. This is still a problem.

Also not here for the people who think this is ‘denying their right to exist’ … like, what? I don’t even understand the leap in (il)logic to come to that conclusion.

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jean-luc-gohard:

The Ferguson PD has successfully reframed the conversation to be about a robbery, but remember, Darren Wilson didn’t know about any robbery when he stopped Mike Brown. That means he didn’t even get shot over $2-3 in stolen cigarillos. He got shot for jaywalking.

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